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Dear Uncle Trey Pound:

 Lately, I've spent a lot of time flirting with a younger man that I see socially. He's said repeatedly that he thinks we should date, but I'm hesitant because of the age difference. I'm in my 30's, and he's a good ten years younger.  He seems completely unfazed by our ages, but it's all I can think about these days. My friends can name celebs who've gone the younger-man route, but I'm no Demi.  I think we could have a good time together (maybe even a healthy relationship) but I'm just not sure about dating a younger man. What should I do, Uncle Trey Pound?

Signed,

Trying Not to Be Mrs. Robinson

 

Dear Mrs. Robinson:

Let me make sure I've got all the details down right: you're into him; he's expressed an interest in you; you think it could work; he doesn't care about the age difference...Why are you wasting time writing to me? You need to be having this conversation with him. Of all the people you mentioned (your friends, your younger man, and you), the only person who seems to be concerned with age difference is you. I say relax and give it a chance. If your only real concern is the fact that the two of you were born too far apart chronologically, then I think you're already doing better than most couples. Don't get too caught up in age differences--concentrate on the other person in the relationship.

 

 

Dear Uncle Trey Pound: 

A couple of weeks ago, I met a girl at a club. We seemed to hit it off, talking on the phone a few times since we first met. But all of a sudden, she stopped answering my calls and won't call me back. Anytime I get her on the phone, she insists she's busy, and promises to call me back. Of course, she never does. I'm starting to think she's not really interested in me. What should I do, Uncle Trey Pound?

 Signed,

Am I Doing Too Much?

 

 Dear Doing Too Much: 

I hate to break it to you, but I think the chances of her really liking you are pretty slim. While she might be playing "hard-to-get," it's more likely that she's playing "don't bother." She's not even being a "tease" since in order to tease you, she'd have to be talking to you. You'd be better off focusing your attention on someone who's actually into you. Since I don't know what you're into, I can't really tell you where to meet the kind of girl you're looking for, but you need to move on from this girl. To put it bluntly: it ain't gonna happen, bro.

 

 

Dear Uncle Trey Pound:

 I've been dating a married man for about a year now, and I'm starting to think I'm wasting my time. He said he and his wife were separated, but it's been months since he's made any mention of that, and they don't seem to be getting any closer to divorce. Is it time for me to move on?

 Signed,

The Other Woman

 

Dear Other Woman:

Is this a joke? Am I being punked? I honestly don't know where to start with your letter. Umm...okay: 1) If he was going to leave his wife, he'd have done it already; 2) To refer to your relationship as "dating" is a stretch. You're his back-up plan, as long as he's still married to Wifey; 3) Don't you think you deserve something better than a part-time man? If you're looking for a real relationship, it has to be wtih a man who can give himself fully to you. And it's hard to believe that a man who's already married to someone else can give any more than half of himself to you. Yes, you should definitely move on, and quickly too.

 

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